Everything happens for a reason

I am the biggest believer in the quote “Everything happens for a reason”

Yeah a bit cheesy, but usually the first thing people tell you when shit goes south and doesn’t end up how you wanted it to go.

Well “dude everything happens for a reason” and/ or “shit happens” Is what you typically hear from your peeps.

Embracing the outcomes, learning, and growing from these certain situations is what’s important. Things will always continue to happen that are beyond our control and out of our hands.

And so yes! Shit does happen. It happens all the time. But how we choose to deal with these situations and how we grow from them is what’s important.

Ask yourself. How will you turn the worse outcome and worse situation in your life to be the biggest blessing you’ve ever had?

Here is my answer to this question.  I recently had to go through one of the most challenging experiences of my life. I experienced true heartbreak.

Not your puppy love 2-week depression. No. Your full on “fuck this life” type of heartbreak. I lost myself along the process of doing everything I could to force someone to love me.

People, you cannot force someone to love you! No matter what you do. People are blinded to all types of nice shit you do for them. And so yes, I got taken for granted. Boo Hoo! Sad story.

Anyways throughout the process of this heartbreak I had to deal with many phases of darkness. Mind you I was really the good guy and everyone that knows how shit went down with my 7-year relationship can probably agree.

I always shamed myself to try and make sense of why I got treated the way I did, and why such a beautiful thing ended up being the most painful thing ever.

And so I blamed myself. Time after time. For all the possible bad things you could think of me I thought about myself 10x worse.

It was the worse experience of my life. I lost myself. I lost what I thought was my purpose. You could almost say a part of me died a little. The light in me had vanished.

But it was amongst the darkest days that I truly began to understand the many things that happened in my life and what each one of them had to teach.

Amongst the darkest days I found the brightest light, learned the most important lessons, and began to truly appreciate life.

Amongst the darkest days I found myself, my purpose, and my happiness.

And so I sit here blessed. Blessed to share that today I love myself. Today I am an individual walking on this earth with purpose.

Today I fully understand my worth, what makes me happy, and what I truly deserve. From the worse experience of my life I learned the greatest lesson life had to teach.

& today; Today I live.